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It happens to all parents - the day you have to talk about sex with your adolescent. To help get you started, we've identified ten basic points
Admit that sexuality is positive. (Perhaps the hardest thing to admit to a child on the brink of lust and love.) If you cast sex as negative, as in 'Don't do it!' then your child will simply ignore your advice.
Don't give boys short shrift. Broaching sexuality is easier with girls, because you can start with menstruation. With boys, talking about wet dreams and ejaculation is far more disquieting. It's hardly surprising then that surveys show that girls get far more information about their bodies and sexual urges than boys.
Define sexual behaviour as a romantic progression. Explain that sexual attraction begins with a smile and proceeds along a path from kissing to touching and onto intercourse. A step-by-step approach ensures that a child can stop at any time. Make that point.
Girls and boys require different instructions. Take the issue of consent, for example. Girls need to learn to say no firmly, looking a boy straight in the face. Sometimes girls look away or say nothing; this can be misinterpreted by a boy who continues to make sexual advances. Boys need to be warned of the danger of assuming consent. He may be liable for charges of rape or sexual abuse.
Listen carefully to your child's comments. Each generation has different sexual expressions and values. Think back to the 1970s or '80s. Remember your parents' take on sex? Begin to learn today's language and norms. Then you know where to start.
Clarify the danger of oral sex. In today's culture, oral sex is considered casual and convenient. Raised in the shadow of AIDS, our children seize upon oral sex, assuming that it's safe sex and, technically, doesn't undo virginity. Explain that any exchange of bodily fluid can result in STDs or HIV. Define abstinence.
Offer a checklist for sexual decision-making. How does someone decide that it's right to have sexual intercourse? Discuss typical reasons. Love. Boyfriend or girlfriend pressure. Pressure from peers. Lower inhibitions after drinking or using drugs. Here is where you inject your values - when and why one would take this step.
Link sex to emotional consequences. Sex is a physical drive, but with emotional connections. Put sex in a loving context. Explain how it bonds people deeply. Once sex happens people are more vulnerable. Broken hearts hurt more. Reputations get juicier. Regrets happen.
No parent gets off the hook. Mothers and fathers each bring important perspectives to sex talks. It helps if boys can hear from their fathers about what is appropriate and what's not, and while mothers are better able to demystify women to their sons, dads can best explain men to their daughters.
Take advantage of all the help you can get. TV, films, magazine articles, newspaper stories - all provide teachable moments. Use everyday opportunities to comment and listen to opinions from your young adolescent. The sex talk is an ongoing educational conversation.
Finally, remember having sex is not a punishable offence.
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